B from Underwater Light tagged me for an interview meme. I like these… and your questions were really good! Here goes…
1. Now that you’ve been a SAHM for several months, what do you think about your experiences?
You would ask me that wouldn’t you. I can’t say its been the optimal experience considering all the things that are going on in regards to my marriage. HOWEVER– as a general whole, I’ve never felt my stress level this low and I don’t feel pulled in too many directions. Before, it do this for work, do this for Hamza, do this for family, do this for husband…. and everything had a deadline and I was tired all the time and jittery in a way I didn’t even recognize until I wasn’t anymore. That being said, entertaining a 3 year old is far more difficult that finishing a mail campaign or planning a banquet. People followed my instructions then, more or less. Hamza just says no. And then we butt heads. Literally. Nowadays, I love my mommy friends more. I love that spending a day hanging out with a good friend is a very productive day for us because its socialization and good play time for my son. I love the library. I love reading tons more than I used to. I love not using my alarm clock often. I love that I don’t feel pressured to put an entire day of parenting into 5 hours between work and bedtime.
2. What is the best book you’ve read lately and why should I read it?
I am going to give you two. Lucky you.
First one: Life of Pi. It has a cool picture on the cover, for starters. Second, its an incredible story that is supposedly true.
Second: This is really earthy-crunchy, but I loved it. And it has a hokey name. Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth, by Ina May Gaskin. She is a self taught midwife from The Farm (Wiki it if you must – I did, as the extents of my granola nature are my birkenstocks and my need to handwash stuff just for fun). Half of the birth is birth stories from mothers who gave birth mostly outside the predominant medical model using midwives from The Farm. The other half is serious reading about childbirth, the process and what midwives do. One conclusion I am came to out of reading this is that the medical structure and society at large in the US looks at childbirth as an emergency where so many things can go wrong versus the viewpoint that childbirth is a natural process that most of us are able to do with minimal intervention given the proper mental, physical and people tools.
3. You have a penchant for unusual words and names. Where do you find them?
The internet is a fabulous beastie! 🙂 I have fed my love of unusual words by googling “strange words” and “unusual words” Phrontistery has given me some of my weirder ones like farrago and aboulemania.
As for names, I *heart* Celtic (with a hard C) and Irish names. (And scottish names as well, but I don’t have much of a heritage with them. I love the way they look and sound with the different sounds for the consonants and vowels.)
4. Where do you hope you’ll be in five years?
Beats me. I sort of turned my life upside in the last six months and I will be digging out for quite a while. In my mind, I have a wonderful marriage, a new baby, a house that is just big enough that it won’t look cluttered holding all my things. I suppose I’ll still be stuck in the midwest since I hate moving so much. I don’t see myself going careerwise again. That’s still hard to accept in my brain, but I really don’t miss that part of my life.
5. What is your favorite stress reliever?
Used to be eating before I got back on the anti-depressants. I loved to go to Penn Station and get a Philly Cheesesteak with extra onions and mushrooms. Yum. Still sounds good, but it would take an entire day of not eating to get that hungry. (On the good side, I have lost a small bit of weight)
My favorite stress relievers are reading good fiction, sleeping and driving. I usually employ the driving stress reliever along with a honking huge half coke-half diet soda and NPR. Its an exciting life, let me tell ya.
If you want to be tagged for a five question interview meme, be one of the first five people to leave me a comment asking for it and I will do my best to oblige.